Bringing a toy into a relationship is not about fixing anything. It is about play, closeness and a little shared adventure. Here is how a wearable, remote-controlled piece works, and how to enjoy it together.
What a couples toy is
A couples toy is designed for two. Many are wearable and hands-free, sitting softly in place so you can stay close, and a lot of them come with a remote, which means your partner can take the controls. It is less about the device and more about the game you play with it together.
The best shared toy is the one that makes room for both of you.
Why playing together works
Research is reassuring here. A 2025 study found that using devices during partnered sex was linked to stronger arousal, more intense orgasms and higher sexual satisfaction for women. A large 2024 survey across several countries found that more frequent toy use with a partner went hand in hand with greater sexual, relationship and life satisfaction.
Part of it is simple: reaching for a toy together invites you to talk about what you like, and that conversation tends to make everything better.
Meet Nia
The KUNDZSI Nia is a soft, flexible wearable that stays discreetly in place.
It comes with its own remote, so your partner can set the rhythm, even across the room.
How to use it together, step by step
Step by step
- Charge it and talk briefly first: what you are curious about, and anything that is off the table.
- Add a little water-based lubricant and settle the wearable comfortably in place.
- Hand the remote to your partner and agree who is driving.
- Start on a low setting and build slowly, reading each other as you go.
- Pick a simple signal for more, less or stop, so nobody has to break the moment.
- Let it be playful. There is no performance here, only the two of you.
Ways to play
A wearable with a remote is wonderfully flexible. Try it as a slow build during a date night, as part of foreplay, or kept on during sex for an extra layer. Some couples love the tease of handing over control at dinner or on the sofa, long before the bedroom.
Curious which piece fits you both? Take our short quiz, or read our G-spot guide.
Sources
Jones, C., et al. (2025). Toys in the bedroom: use of sexual devices in partnered sexual activity. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 22(3), 397. academic.oup.com
Daniéls, N. F., et al. (2024). Sex Toy Use in Denmark, Norway, Sweden, Finland, France, and the UK. Journal of Sex Research. tandfonline.com
Reece, M., et al. (2009). Prevalence and Characteristics of Vibrator Use by Men in the United States. The Journal of Sexual Medicine. researchgate.net
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